When we think of addiction, the first thing that comes to mind is often drugs or substances. We distance ourselves from the concept, reassuring ourselves that we are not bound by such dependencies.
But addiction can take many forms, and it isn't always obvious at first glance. For me, it was work.
I used to immerse myself in my job, allowing it to consume my entire life. From dawn till dusk, I would be at work, pouring all my energy into my professional pursuits. It was a convenient escape, shielding me from the pangs of loneliness and the disappointment of failed relationships. While I excelled at my work, I struggled to find the right partner, always ending up with someone incompatible. Work became my addiction, my refuge.
Why did I choose work as my addiction? Because it provided a temporary reprieve from emotional pain and anxiety. It gave me a sense of control and purpose in a world that often felt chaotic. Addictions, in their essence, are attempts to solve underlying problems — whether it's coping with emotional distress, overwhelming stress, loss of control, or a lack of deep connections. In my case, it was a way to mask the discomfort I felt within myself.
So, I ask you again: What is your addiction? Is it work, shopping, exercise, or excessive spending? All of these behaviors serve as means to self-soothe, to fill a void within. Addiction arises from the need to heal something in our lives — the pain and trauma we carry, often rooted in childhood experiences. However, it's crucial to recognize that all addictions come with consequences, even if they aren't immediately visible to those around us.
In my case, my relentless work ethic harmed my relationships with family and friends, even though I wasn't aware of it. I was too exhausted to be fully present for them, and my constant fatigue made me irritable and distant. Your addiction may not cause visible harm to those close to you, but I encourage you to delve deeper and reflect on the potential consequences it may have. Does your compulsive spending strain your finances and impact your loved ones? Addiction and trauma are intertwined, and acknowledging this connection is the first step toward healing.
At Dragonfly Blue, we understand the profound link between childhood trauma and addiction. We are committed to helping individuals heal from their past wounds and release the grip of addiction. It all begins with a simple phone call. In a 20-minute conversation, we can discuss how we can embark on a journey of transformation and liberation from your trauma. I eagerly await your call, excited to be part of your path to a renewed and authentic self.
Blessings to you
Rach
Dragonfly Blue
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